What we can learn from the Kanye West-Julia Fox implosion

Kanye West and Julia Fox in happier occasions.
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When Ye, né Kanye West, goes large, he goes large — and that naturally extends to breakups and rebound relationships.

As we’re all too conscious, Kim Kardashian, 41, filed for divorce from West, 44, final February, and he not too long ago launched into a whirling dervish of a romance with actress and former dominatrix Julia Fox, 32.

He lavished her with Diesel duds, whisked her off to Paris and gave her a Birkin birthday — solely to all of the sudden pivot and get mopey about Kim. On Monday, Fox’s rep confirmed that the pair had break up.

West, in the meantime, took to Instagram. “I don’t have beef with Kim … I like my household. I've religion we’ll be again collectively,” a seemingly emotional West wrote on the photo-sharing platform. “To be in love is to be loopy about one thing and I'm loopy about my household,” he admitted earlier than closing his cyber salute to Kardashian and their 4 youngsters with “Completely happy Valentine’s [Day].”

West begged God to revive his household with Kim Kardashian, regardless of his then-budding relationship with actress Julia Fox.

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Relationship consultants are hardly stunned that West and Fox’s rollercoaster rebound romance — name it a giant bounce — crashed and burned.

“It’s actually regular to be in a rebound relationship,” mentioned Megan Fleming, a medical psychologist in Manhattan. “However in the event you’re dashing into it with large gestures of affection and dedication with out ever taking the time to get know the opposite individual, that might result in bother as a result of the connection isn’t being constructed a stable basis.”

Fox mentioned she and Ye referred to 1 one other as “boyfriend” and “girlfriend” regardless of his “residual emotions” for Kardashian.

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Fleming warns rushed “rebound” daters to watch out for a brand new companion fixated on their ex.

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To keep away from an implosion a la Juliye — West and Fox’s short-lived couple identify — Fleming mentioned one ought to proceed with warning with rebound romances.

“Don’t have any attachment to a [fairy tale-like] end result in most of these relationships,” mentioned the skilled. “When somebody hasn’t taken the time to heal from a previous relationship or hasn’t invested enough power into establishing a significant reference to their new companion, these might be crimson flags that they’re utilizing the newer relationship to distract themselves from their points moderately than to search out actual love once more.”

These curler coaster romances may be exhausting not only for these within the throes of them; they’re additionally painful from the sidelines. Mom of three Darlene Kollet instructed The Put up how troublesome it was seeing her husband fall into an intense rebound relationship after their 30-year marriage led to 2018.

“Seeing him transfer on so rapidly introduced me to my lowest level,” mentioned Kollet, 54. “He instantly began taking her on journeys, out to fancy eating places and accommodations, and he even introduced her to household occasions proper after we broke up.”

Kollet helps folks on social media whose exes dove into intense relationships quickly after turning into single.

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However after her ex’s six-month fling led to shambles, he was crammed with remorse, in line with Kollet. 

“My ex tells me on a regular basis that leaping into a brand new romance with some girl after our breakup is one in every of his largest errors,” the Rhode Islander mentioned. She now gives on-line help to different jilted singles whose exes took on rebound romances proper after splitting up. She and her ex, who declined to remark for this text, at the moment are pals.

“We help each other,” Kollet mentioned. “He’s completely satisfied that I rebounded by serving to others.”